Committed

This topic has come up quite a bit lately, and it’s something some struggle with in relationships.

Staying committed.

Like most everything you start new, I think it’s extremely important to start out with intention.

Intentionality is everything, really.

Think back when you first made a decision to do something scary...

Was it asking someone to marry you, or on the other end, saying yes to someone asking?

Was it quitting your job and finding something that made you feel alive?

Starting a new business, or side gig?

Was it setting a boundary within a toxic friendship (or with a family member) and standing up for yourself?

Was it cutting or coloring your hair differently than everyone expects?

What about deciding to have children?

Or reaching out to someone to say sorry?

Maybe it was moving across the country for a job...

Insert your own scary scenario.

Follow me. Do you remember when you got to that point of not looking back? hm?

𝐼’𝑣𝑒 𝑑𝑒𝑐𝑖𝑑𝑒𝑑. 𝐼’𝑚 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑐ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑔𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑚𝑦 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑.

You’d put so much thought into it by that point... the decision had been ᴹᴬᴰᴱ.

You said those words that made it so..

I quit.

I’m done.

Yes!

I’m sorry.

.

.

Then.

The hair stylist snipped that first piece of hair..

You got pregnant..

You sold your house to move..

When you’ve gotten to that point, it’s too late. It’s the point of no return.

So I relate this to when people decide to make a big, life changing, pivotal decision.

It’s scary.

There’s excitement… but also that first bit of shock.

𝑊ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑜𝑛 𝑒𝑎𝑟𝑡ℎ ℎ𝑎𝑣𝑒 𝐼 𝑑𝑜𝑛𝑒?

But if you made it that far….

You decided to just do it and forgot every negative thing someone could say, every judge-y person out there, every bit of doubt.

You’ve gone too far.

So then it’s very important to set out with intent.

The intent to see what comes of it.

How far it can go.

And give it ALL the focus and energy, to give yourself that chance.

Some people start to doubt themselves from before they even begin.

And honestly, it may not work out.

You may hate it.

Or people may not like your idea, your new haircut, or that you’ll be so far away from them when you move.

But from day one, if you believe that IF it’s possible, IF anyone can do it, that YOU CAN DO IT.

And you intend to try.

Intend to give it all you’ve got.

Intend to make your scary decision worth it.

Follow your dreams.

Make new friends.

Own that haircut.

Be the best parent you know how to be.

Then, make it worth it.

Show up and stay committed.

When you mess up..... because you will by the way.

just look at where you began, how you overcame the scary decision and went for it,

and pay EXTRA SUPER close attention to what happens when you don’t put in the work and hold your level of commitment.....

things will start to look scarier than before the decision you made.

Because what’s scarier than making that initial decision?

That’s right. It’s going back to how things were.